Opinion: Don't Let that Change You II
At a certain stage in our lives I think it safe to say we come to know ourselves a little bit better. We are then somewhat confident in saying "I like these things" or "I dislike those things." And we may describe ourselves as, "I am always on time." or perhaps "ah time?! What animal is that?!" We may say we like people "who like the things we like" and "can't stand people who behave in certain ways." Hence we have a better sense of where we stand as individuals.
In the original post, I tried to use tardiness as an example, and I shall continue to do so here. Hence our friend's issue is a disregard for time. It is important that we do not start adopting that attitude ourselves, by reasoning that "well, so-and-so never shows up on time, so I won't either." This way of thinking and acting is normal and happens almost unconsciously. In time, that way of thinking starts painting a new shade over our self discipline, making us into that something we didn't like in the other and didn't practice ourselves.
The obvious question here is, of course, why be friends with someone who disrespects something we hold valuable? Well, there are different measures of importance to the things we value. Sometimes we meet someone who has something of a higher value to us, and for that matter, we stick around until we fulfill that desire. Of course, this only happens when the value of that something that they possess is superior to our dislike of their bad habits.
Spending time with a new friend has led me to this reasoning, as I kept questioning why I remain acquainted with them. Opening myself to the opportunity of seeing things through the eyes of someone who has had different experiences, and possesses a point of view that might be dissimilar to mine; but whom I find intriguing and believe I can learn from. As no two persons are the same, I think it an excellent exercise to learn to see the world as others see it, to learn to accept people as they are while still remaining true to whatever selves that we are at those moments. In the long run, I believe this strengthen how we deal with others. It is however, essential that we learn to pick up the good and stay vigilant in resisting the bad so we do not go backward, in character, rather than forward.